CHOOSING TO SHIFT

 

 

Depending on where you are in the country, you may be in the throes of Spring, already feeling the heat of an intense summer or still experiencing wintry moments from time to time. The weather is that thing in life we can do nothing about. We simply have to take what Mother Nature dishes out. On Sunday I was reminded how the decision to allow the Sun to live within us, is up to each and everyone of us. If we allow light to illuminate from us, we not only brighten our own day but we brighten the life of others as well.

Our attitude and disposition is a choice we make. It's not what happens to us in life that defines us but how we allow ourselves to be impacted by what happens. As caregivers, some days are just awful and we wish we could disappear or run away. However, it's where we position our thoughts and the attitude we choose to adopt that allow us to shift. What if we ask the questions, "How is this experience allowing me to grow?" "What am I learning?" "How will I be better as a result of this experience?" The moment we shift, we take the power away from the "thing" that has just rattled our nerves. Shifting attention means we shift energy. When we shift our energy, we aid in shifting the energy of those we care for.

When I find myself overwhelmed, I stop and I breathe, deeply. A single, deep intentional breath followed by another deep intentional breath grounds me. When I'm grounded I'm on my game, on task and on purpose. It's in those moment I experience JOY. Calm, clear, JOY. The realization that with each breath, I can begin anew. I can choose. I can love, I can give. I can ask for help. I can take a break just for me. I can walk outside in the grass, barefoot feeling the earth between my feet. I can curl up with a good book and escape for a little while. I can call an old friend and catch up. I can BE STILL. And in that Stillness I know that I am not alone. That I don't have to do this all by myself. It's in those moment, I choose. I choose to SHIFT.

At TCG, we wish you good health, happiness and safe travels as you take care of self and manage all of your caregiving responsibilities. Remember, you don't have to do this alone. We are here to help. TCG offers a free fifteen minute consultation. Call us at 303.394.1963.

About Our Coaching Services

We view you as the expert in your life and assist you in excavating truths that allow you to move forward

  • We assist the caregiver in identifying the Spiritual Practice needed to enhance the journey
  • We offer spiritual support, prayers and guided meditations tailored to the caregiver
  • We teach advocacy, mediation and coping skills needed to meet each challenge
  • We offer a sounding board that is a safe haven to express your concerns, fears and needs
  • We offer solutions to family challenges, family mediation and planning
  • We teach you the importance of a “Share the Care” strategy and help you implement it
  • We coach those who care about the caregiver on how to best support the caregiver in their life

Everybody Needs a Break

Throughout my caregiving journey with my mom, I found the winter months particularly challenging.  On a cold, bitter day, with temps hovering below zero, my husband asked my mom, what did she want to do?  Thinking she'd say, "play cards or call one of her sisters", mom responded with, "Let's get out of here.  I want to go to the mall."  This was shocking as my mom hated to go out in the cold weather.

Calling her bluff, I bundled her up, and my hubby settled her into the wheelchair accessible van.  I thought my husband was nuts for taking my mom out and mom even nuttier for wanting to go out in such frigid weather.  I made it clear that I would not be joining them and actually, neither of them seemed to care.  They took off.  Once I was certain they were gone, I curled up with hot chocolate and a book I had long been wanting to read.  

They were gone long enough for me to read most of the book and to begin to worry just a bit.  Three hours later I heard the van pull into the garage.  A bit miffed they had been gone so long, I gave my husband an interesting look and asked my mom, "So was it worth it, going out in that bitter cold?"  Mom said "Yup, sure was!  It gave me a spring break from you."

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TCG's mission is to reduce mortality and morbidity rates among family caregivers by educating, empowering and inspiring caregivers to first take care of self, create a viable plan of care and to help caregivers recognize when they should no longer do the job of caring for a loved one alone.

Our Vision is to provide a safe haven for caregivers to unload, refocus, balance and strategize in order to obtain a healthful state of being in their capacity as caregivers.

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