Newsflash.  Being a caregiver is what you do for your loved one, it is not who you are.  Your loved one needs you to continue being you while you are caring for them.  They need you to maintain your identity and continue doing the things that bring you joy.  When the caregiver is happy, the care recipient tends to be happy. Carving out time for yourself gives you something interesting to share and keeps things from revolving around illness or incapacitation.